Friends Digest, Vol 89, Issue 1

Posted by admin on Jul 15, 2011 in Meeting Events, Meeting News, Our Friends, Our Practices

Today’s Topics:

1. Announcements for July 16 and 17 (with belated announcements
for July 10)

As a reminder, Swananoa Valley Friends Meeting has invited us to a pot luck picnic at their meeting house on July 16 at 4 p.m. This is a follow up of our invitation to them last summer.

Directions to Swannanoa Valley Friends Meeting

Beginning on Interstate I-40:
EXIT no.64 (to Rte. 9/Black Mountain/Montreat); travel NORTH (toward railroad tracks& town) on Broadway Avenue (Rte 9) to intersection with State Street (Rte 70); then RIGHT onto State Street (Rte 70). Travel ~ 4 blocks, then RIGHT onto Scotland Street for one block, then LEFT onto Center Street for ~ one block, which leads to the parking lot of
Swannanoa Valley Friends Meetinghouse

Paulette Meier will play music from her cd’s. She was artist in residence
at Pendle Hill. We played one of her chants at Meeting for Business in
April. She also will provide music suited for children, who are especially
invited to attend. Friends from Celo heard some of her music at SAYMA and have asked to be included. Additional information about Paulette and her music can be found at http://www.lessonsongs.com/


Pat Johnson says:

Hoping you can announce my trip to Tanzania and for those who are interested in following my adventures, please give my blog address as
http://tanzaniajourney-pjohnson.blogspot.com Thanks for your help. Take care.


Ministry and counsel will discuss eldering and calls your attention to the


“Elders are primarily concerned with the spiritual life of the group as a
whole and of its individual members…” (London Yearly Meeting, Governance #854)

“They [the elders] see to it that peace, love, unity, harmony and sound
doctrine are preserved in the church of Christ.” (Berkley’s Apology)

Among early Friends an “elder” was someone “well grown in truth” or as we might say today, spiritually mature.
Later, the role of the elder was often contrasted with that of the
minister. The latter was one recognized for his or her gifts of vocal
ministry and the role was often prophetic and public. The elders were
charged with nurturing the spirit of the community and the individuals
within it Their role was often more private and concerned with the process of the Meeting. Modern Quakers think that we are all elders, just as we are all ministers. Unfortunately, the term “eldering” has come to mean
“chastising” or “correcting” someone.


1. Remember: the most powerful form of eldering is by example.

2. Be sensitive to the gifts of others; help them to name them and offer support in their attempt to develop them.

3. Consider your own motivation. Are you trying to demonstrate that you are “more Quakerly than thou” or do you have a genuine concern for the individual and community?

4. Since it is easy to deceive ourselves about our motivation two people should elder together when possible. When it is not possible consult with others before eldering This is especially important if the eldering might be construed as criticism.

5 Engage the other person in a dialogue. Ask clarifying questions. It is as important to be a good listener as it is to be a clear communicator. A good test of our eldering is this: Do we genuinely want to understand and hear the other person?s perspective or do we just want to express our own?

6. . Be as specific as possible. General feedback such as “that was a
beautiful message” or “that was inappropriate” is not very helpful.
“Your message inspires me to be less judgmental” or “your humming during meeting for worship makes it hard for me to center” are more helpful.

7., Be direct and truthful. However, remember that “Let the truth be thy shield” is not a license to beat people over the head with it.

8. Be courageous in confronting conflict. Little problems tend to grow
bigger if neglected and may alienate people from the meeting.

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Attention Carolers:

Posted by admin on Jan 1, 2011 in Other Events, Our Friends

due to a quarantine in effect at Highland Farms, our caroling visit there will must be delayed until the quarantine is lifted. The charge nurse today indicated that she did not believe it would be lifted by tomorrow (First Day of First Month, first week of 2011), but that she highly encourages us to come sing next weekend assuming the quarantine is lifted by then.



Coming up at Meeting

Posted by admin on Aug 26, 2010 in Meeting Events, Meeting News, Our Friends

Dear Friends,

This weekend is a time of food and fellowship as we join with Swannanoa Valley Friends for a potluck picnic on Saturday evening, and then celebrate two important milestones after rise of Meeting on Sunday.

Festivities will begin on Saturday at 5 p.m at the Meetinghouse as we gather with Friends from Swannanoa Valley Meeting for what we hope will be the first of many potluck get-togethers. As usual, Friends are encouraged to bring healthy, home-made offerings, and label the ingredients with a concern for those folks who have food sensitivities.

After rise of Meeting on Sunday, we will have a joint celebration of the recent marriage of Laura Maynard and Doug Lane and the transfer of membership of our now-longtime Friend Edie Patrick. Leftovers are likely but should not be taken for granted.

Also, Friends have the opportunity to contribute to the well-being of those less fortunate in our larger Asheville community in several ways.
First, we have our ongoing Manna Food Bank collection box in the foyer, waiting to be filled with canned goods and other non-perishable food items. Second, Friend Jim C. is collecting bed linens, blankets, and towels to be donated to A-Hope, Asheville’s primary access point for support services for homeless people. And third, Friend Susan O. is helping folks who are transitioning from homelessness to independent living by collecting small appliances, dishes, and tableware. If you have larger items such as furniture to donate, please contact her in advance. All other items can be brought to Meeting – along with your contributions to our weekend festivities!

Best wishes,

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ACLU Press Release

Posted by admin on May 22, 2010 in Other Events, Our Friends, Peace & Justice

What: ACLU Annual Membership Meeting & Award Presentation
When: Sunday, May 23, 2010 at 2 p.m.
Where: Asheville Friends Meeting House, 227 Edgewood Road
Asheville, NC – Robert G. (Bob) Smith, the long-time executive director of the Asheville-Buncombe Community Relations Council and a citizen extraordinaire by any measure, will receive the 2010 annual Evan Mahaney Champion of Civil Liberties Award from the Western North Carolina Chapter of the American Civil Liberties Union at the chapter’s annual meeting on Sunday, May 23 at 2:00 p.m. In the Friends Meeting House, 227 Edgewood Road, Asheville. The ACLU annual meeting and award presentation is free and open to the public.  This year alone, Smith’s humble but powerful volunteer efforts included his support for two important causes urged by the local chapter of the ACLU – the historical NC Racial Justice Act, signed into law by Governor Perdue last August; and the Civil Liberties Resolution first drafted by the local ACLU chapter that is now being advanced by City Council Member Cecil Bothwell and several other local organizations.  The keynote speaker for this year’s annual meeting of the ACLU of WNC Chapter is Dr. Dan T. Carter, a widely sought speaker, who has lectured throughout the United States and abroad, author of seven works of history, and the winner of many teaching and writing awards. Former President of the Southern Historical Association, Carter has held a half dozen fellowships and visiting appointments including Fulbright professorships in London and Genoa, Italy. He also held Cambridge University’s distinguished chair in American institutions, the Pitt Professorship as well as NEH, ACLS and NHF Fellowships. Kenan University Professor at Emory University, Dr.Carter was appointed the first Educational Foundation Professor of History at the University of South Carolina in the fall of 2000 and became Emeritus Professor in September of 2007.  Dr Carter won the Bancroft Prize for Scottsboro: A Tragedy of the American South. (1970). In addition to the Bancroft Prize, Scottsboro  received the Saturday Review Anisfield Wolfe Award, the Lillian Smith Award and a special citation from the Mystery Writers of America for the author’s success at combining “high level scholarship and the prose quality of the best mystery writers.” The book became the basis for a major NBC television docudrama in 1977 (Judge Horton and the Scottsboro Boys).  After working as an adviser on a number of television documentaries, he joined three-time Emmy winner Paul Stekler as chief historical adviser and principle on-camera commentator for George Wallace: “Settin’ the Woods on Fire,” a three hour biographical documentary on Alabama governor George Wallace and his impact on American politics. The film, based on Carter’s book, The Politics of Rage, aired in the spring of 2000 on PBS’s series, “The American Experience” and was nominated for three Emmys. Carter and Stekler received an Emmy from the American Academy of Television Arts and Sciences for their historical research on the Wallace film.  In addition to his involvement with documentaries, Carter is often called upon by the news media for his observations on American politics and history and he has been interviewed on NPR’s “Talk of the Nation” as well as “All Things Considered,” “Morning Edition” and “Weekend Edition;” “The News Hour With Jim Lehrer,” ABC’s “Nightline,” and Terry Gross’s “Fresh Air.” In late 2005, he was a featured interviewee on Bill Moyer’s “Now.” Carter is currently at work on several projects, including what he calls a “meditation on American political culture” as seen through the life of Asa Carter, a violent Klansman of the 1950s and 1960s who created a new identity as “Forrest” Carter in 1972 and became a successful novelist, writing such best selling books as The Outlaw Josey Wales, Watch for Me on the Mountain and The Education of Little Tree.  A short business session will be held at which the ACLU members present will vote on proposed new members of the WNC chapter board: Julie Mayfield of Asheville and Connie Nash of Brevard. Refreshments will be served and the meeting is free and open to the public….

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Upcoming events for the week of May 16, 2010

Posted by admin on May 17, 2010 in Other Events, Our Friends, Peace & Justice, Uncategorized

05/21/10 WNC PHYSICIANS FOR SOCIAL RESPONSIBILITY MEETING This will be held at noon at Mary Olson’s NIRS office, 45 Riverview Dr. in west Asheville.  Please park on the street. Please call Lew at 299-1242 for more information.

05/22/10 GOAT TRAIL WALK The Veterans Quarters is home to about 200 vets.  It’s out on Tunnel Road, about a mile from the VA Hospital. Many of the residents have appointments at the VA during the day, but there are no sidewalks or bus service. So the vets have worn what they call a “Goat Trail” in the grass beside Tunnel Road. If you drive that way, you’ll usually see them dodging cars, trying to get to the hospital.  This is just one small stretch of Asheville that needs sidewalks, but there are many others.  Please join us for the Sidewalks for Safety walk to draw attention to our pressing need for more sidewalks throughout Asheville.  We’ll start walking at Groce Medothist Church, 954 Tunnel Road, and continue to the Veterans Quarters, 1329 Tunnel Road on Saturday, May 22 at 9 AM.  [One small correction:  the Veterans Quarters are technically outside the city of Asheville.]

05/22/10 MAY HOPE CONCERT 2010 The 4th annual May Hope Mental Health Benefit Concert takes place on Saturday, May 22, at 7 p.m. At All Souls Cathedral in Biltmore Village. Proceeds from the May Hope Concert will be divided among A Hope, a day program for the homeless operated by Homeward Bound; Copestone Inpatient and Outpatient Psychiatric Services of Mission Hospitals; All Souls Counseling Center, which provides counseling services for the uninsured; and NAMI of Western Carolina, the local affiliate of the National Alliance on Mental Illness which offers education, support, and advocacy for the mentally ill and their families. The featured entertainer this year is nationally known and locally based composer, performer and producer, Chris Rosser. He has opened for John Mayer and for Nickel Creek and won songwriting contests at the Rocky Mountain Folk Festival and the Merle Watson Festival. Also performing will be Annie Lalley, Joe Ebel and Aaron Burdette, Richard Sacket and Friends, and Susan Ward. Along with the entertainment, a silent auction and a snack bar will be offered in the Parish Hall. The magnitude of this benefit has never been more critical as vital mental health services in our community have been drastically cut. Asheville is fortunate to have several agencies that are providing essential help and advocacy.  Tickets are $15. Advance tickets available through 5/21/10, at NAMI.org; then link to May Hope Concert. For more information contact Richard Sackett at (828) 777-0783 (828)777-0783
or Rnotesackett@charter.net.

05/23/10 ACLU ANNUAL MEETING The ACLU Western North Carolina chapter will hold an annual meeting at 2 PM at Asheville Friends Meeting at 227 Edgewood Road in Asheville. The Evan Mahaney Champion of Civil Liberties Award will be presented to Bob Smith, Executive Director of the Asheville-Buncombe County Community Relations Council.  This meeting is open to everyone.  For more information call 252-7666.

05/23/10 FINAL EXIT NETWORK PRESENTATION ”What is MOST and Why Do I Need It?”  This question will be answered by Ellen Kaczmarek, M.D. At the meeting of the spring Final Exit Network of the Blue Ridge Mountains, May 23rd, 2:00 at the Unitarian Universalist Church of Asheville, corner of North Charlotte Street and Edwin Place.  Dr. Kaczmarek, a board-certified internist with a certificate of added qualifications in geriatrics, is medical director at Highland Farms and was recently named medical director of Mission Hospitals new Geriatric Consultation Service.  In addition to your Medical Power of Attorney and Advance Directive Dr. Kaczmarek recommends Medical Orders for Scope of Treatment (MOST).    Come learn about this document, when and why it is recommended.  Advance Directive and Medical Power of Attorney forms will be available.  All are welcome.  For information: 828 687-7759

05/25/10 FUNDRAISER FOR HAITI There will be a fund raiser to support Mission Manna’s work with malnourished children in Haiti.    It will be May 25th, 6 to 10 pm at Jack of the Wood.  $10 admission.  There will be music by Kellin Watson band and the Honeycutters as well as a silent auction of Haitian art and local crafts and gift certificates.

06/17/10 TRANSITION ASHEVILLE DISCUSSION ON PEAK OIL Just as climate change will affect the stability of our ecosystem, the coming decline in petroleum production will soon affect the stability of our economy and our entire way of life.  Come find out about this and the Transition Town movement, which seeks to pro-actively rebuild local resilience and prepare for these coming crises.  The meeting will consist of a 30-minute movie, followed by discussion.
June 17th 7:00 – 8:30 PM North Asheville Library meeting room
All Transition Asheville events:

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Posted by admin on May 17, 2010 in Other Events, Our Friends, Passages

Lena Shallit Feldmann and Ryan Patrick Lane are having a big ole’ WEDDING Saturday, the Twenty-Second of May, Two-Thousand and Ten at Four O’Clock in the afternoon.

Common Light, the Swannanoa Valley Friends Meeting house and grounds down by the bend in the Swannanoa river.

137 Center Avenue in beautiful Black Mountain, North Carolina (28711)

Following the ceremony will be a raucous reception and vegetarian potluck dinner party.

Please, PLEASE respond via email or phone with your current street address and phone number if you think you may be able to attend.

Lena: c(828)242-1954, Ryan: c(828)423-8929

301 Rowland Road, Swannanoa, NC 28778

We are looking forward to seeing you in May!

Love, Lena & Ryan

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friends Digest, Vol 75, Issue 3

Posted by admin on May 14, 2010 in Meeting Events, Meeting News, Our Friends, sayma

Today’s Topics:

1. this week at Meeting (Steve Livingston)

Dear Friends,

This week after rise of meeting for worship, we will have our usual social time with an emphasis on bidding farewell to our dear Friend Ellen Frerotte, who along with her husband Jim will be moving to West Virginia. Then, during the second hour Adult Spiritual Enrichment, we will have sharing of spiritual journeys with Edie Patrick, our new Friend from Tennessee, and . . . Ellen Frerotte!

Also, Friends who are planning to attend the SAYMA Gathering next month, don’t forget the deadline for registration without paying a late penalty is May 15. That would be this Saturday. Fortunately, you can download the registration form. Just go to sayma.org and click on “what’s new”.

Best wishes,

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Young Friends and Friends of Friends in a Performance This Week!

Posted by admin on Apr 12, 2010 in Other Events, Our Friends

Our young friends Paola and Micala will be in a performance this week:

Bye Bye Birdie
Conrad Birdie (Elvis) is going into the army! He’s going to kiss Kim MacAfee before he leaves! Kim just started going out with Hugo Peabody! And there’s definitely some kind of drama going on with Conrad’s manager…
Performance times:
Thursday, April 15, 7:00 pm
Friday, April 16, 7:00 pm
Saturday, April 17, 2:00 pm
Saturday, April 17, 7:00 pm
Sunday, April 18, 2:00 pm
AHS Theatre


A Meeting for Worship with Attention to Phil Neal

Posted by admin on Apr 12, 2010 in Meeting Events, Our Friends

There will be a Meeting for Worship with Attention to Phil Neal held on Sunday, April 18th following our regular Meeting for Worship. Please bring photos if you have them, mementos, and your special memories of Phil in all his many ways of giving and sharing with us at Asheville Friends Meeting. To sign up to bring a pot luck dish, please call Barbara Esther.


Events of Interest

Posted by admin on Mar 24, 2010 in Other Events, Our Friends

Our loyal and dedicated Friend, Susan Oehler, creates an occasional
posting of announcements of peace activities in the Asheville area.
I’m sure some of you are ON her listing of interested folks — Friends and otherwise. But, this is such a splendid compilation that I wish to forward a few of the current ones, with Susan’s email address, that if you ARE NOT already receiving these and might like to, all you’d need to do is to let Susan hear from you: Dancewater2@gmail.com.
Read and note the times and places. Enjoy. Jim
Post Script: Note co-sponsorship of AFM on the first listing…..

WEAPONS IN SPACE on March 25 at 7 PM

“WEAPONS IN SPACE?”at The UNCA Reuter Center. Western NC Physicians for Social Responsibility sponsors Karl Grossman, who will offer his message as a question, while alerting us about our nation’s plans to weaponize and “dominate” space. He will speak on the importance of keeping Space for Peace. Karl has been an investigative journalist for 40 years, is a professor in the State University of New York system, host of nationally aired TV programs and radio commentary, author of six books including “Cover Up: What You Are Not Supposed to Know About Nuclear Power;” and winner of a John Peter Zenger award plus others. This event is free for all to attend. Please come for light refreshments at 6:30 prior to the program.

Other sponsors: Amnesty International UNCA Chapter, Asheville-Buncombe League of Women Voters, Common Cause NC, Haywood Peace Fellowship, Helen Tarasov Reed Fund, International Studies UNCA, Nuclear Information and Resource Service, Southern Energy Network, UNCA Student Environmental Center, Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Hendersonville Social Justice Team; Unitarian Universalist Church of Asheville, Social Justice Council; Warren Wilson College, Peace Studies Program; War Resisters League, Southeast; WNC Chapter, United Nations Association / USA; World Affairs Council of WNC; Peace & Earth Committee of Asheville Friends Meeting; WNC Veterans for Peace,
Chapter 99.

PEAK OIL AND COMMUNITY RESILIENCE on March 26 at 1 PM and March 31 at 6:30 PM

Peak Oil and Community Resilience – The challenge of Peak Oil will
require us to rethink the current system. Presented by: Laura
Lengnick, Ph.D. Director, Sustainable Agriculture Program, Department of Environmental Studies, Warren Wilson College. This is a free event. This program will be presented twice: Wednesday, Friday, March 26th 1:00 pm to 3:00 pm Riceville Community Center, 2251 Riceville Rd, Asheville, and March 31st 6:30 pm to 8:00 pm Ransom Fellowship Hall, Warren Wilson College.

SECOND ANNUAL FREEDOM BALL on April 1 at 7 PM Grey Eagle Music Hall, Asheville

Two years ago Asheville resident Edward Chapman was released from North Carolina’s death row after serving almost 15 years for murders he didn’t commit. The state sent him out the back door of Central Prison with the clothes on his back and not even a “We’re sorry,” after stealing half of his adult life. Local death penalty opponents have organized a second celebration of his release. Current Invention, James Richards and Taryn Strauss, more music TBA. Silent auction. For more information, contact Noel at noelnic@bellsouth.net


Transition Asheville is coordinating a tour of one of downtown
Asheville’s best kept secrets. The George Washington Carver Edible Park is a public orchard with over 40 varieties of fruits and nuts. It was planted on landfill on Parks and Recreation land 12 years ago by volunteers who had recently completed a Permaculture course and were enthusiastic about the concept of forest gardens. It is one of the very first parks of its type in the country and is visited by people of the neighborhood and office workers from the city looking for a little relief from the concrete. The park is a testimony that there can be abundance, diversity, and self reliance in high density urban areas. It is a place where community members can meet and share the communion of healthy, delicious food.
The tour will be lead by orchardist and Permaculture teacher Professor T. Bud Barkslip (a.k.a. Bill Whipple) who has been a volunteer steward of the edible parks around town for the last 5 years. Join Bill in cultivating a playful and creative spirit towards fruit cultivation.
The tour includes hands on experience in proper tree planting and you will learn what a food forest is and how to spread the edible park idea. Meet at the Stephens and Lee Recreation Center parking lot on April 3 at 11:00 a.m. You may arrive at 10:30 if you want to learn more about pruning fruit trees. The suggested donation for this tour is $10.00/person and all of the proceeds will go to to purchasing fruit and nut trees to replace ones that have died in the park.

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